As a Nigerian, it is perfectly clear that I was born with natural soft brown hair that the Lord blessed me with. As a little girl, my aunt whom I lived with during my younger years, always paid to have my hair braided weekly. It was hard to maintain because most styles I did, my hair would always frizz up. The braids/corn rows did make my hair strong and healthy.
Moreover, I didn’t get my first perm (creamy crack) until I was 13 years old. I used the Beautiful Beginnings Kids Perms, because my hair was as soft as feather. The other perms such as Dr. Miracle or Olive Oil could eventually damage my hair, so I stayed away from those. After my first few perms, I thought I could finally do anything and everything to my hair. I was like, “Yes finally the other girls would respect my nice long straight slick hair, without the frizz.” ( very stupid now that I think about it)
Furthermore, during my middle school and high school days, I wore my long hair proudly, styling it however I felt. Occasionally, I would do some box braids to manage my hair and plus it helped my hair grow. When I took out the braids, my friends would ask, “how did your hair get longer? it must be that African crack.” I would just laugh it off and reply, “you guys are all silly.” I didn’t get my first sew-in until my senior year of high school Prom. I gladly embraced my 18 inch weave flowing down my back- that was the start of my addiction to weaves!
I started getting into sew-ins because they made me look more mature. I evolved from the Beauty Supply weaves to the Indian Remy and now the Brazilian weaves from trusting vendors. However, my hair started to thin out as time went on. I hated the way my hair was looking so I began to constantly trim the ends. As time proceeded, I chose to go natural. Everyone tried to discourage me, but I realized that was the only way to get my hair healthy again.
I haven’t permed my hair for 1 year and 4 months. Of course I began to have two different textures and I was very confused and frustrated. I’m too much of a chicken to do the “big chop” which is cutting off all my hair and literally starting from the beginning. I transitioned out, and I finally cut my permed ends after 7 months. At first, I freaked out! Looked in the waste bin and saw all my hair in it and shed some tears. But thank goodness for YouTube videos, following other naturals on Instagram and having natural headed friends who advised me along the day.
I still continue to have sew-ins because I don’t like having my hair out during the school semester in college. Being in college allows no time to actually take care of your hair. You just want to be able to get out of bed, shower and leave out.
Eventually, I found the time to take care of my new natural growth during this winter break. The products I use are: Eco Styler Olive Oil Gel, Creme of Nature Argan Morrocan Leave-in Conditioner, the Moisturizer, Garnier Fructis Anti-Humidity, Pantene Co-wash, Pantene Shea butter Deep Conditoner, Shea Moisture Enhancing Smoothie, Cantu Shea Butter Strengthing treatment Argan Morrocan Oil and lots of water in a spray bottle. These products can be found at your local Wal-Mart and/or Beauty Supply.
I began to embrace my natural hair more and more. I do protective hair styles like wash and go’s to work, a twist out and even rocked an afro proudly. I have no shame when people ask to touch it and sometimes, I advice other natural headed fellow when they need help. Truthfully, I find joy in cutting my hair, it’s been liberating.
Some of my friends hate it and some love it. You just have to be confident in yourself and choose what fits you best.