True or False? Study Shows Women With Natural Hair Have Low Self Esteem

This  was an article I read, comment your opinions below…

According to research by cosmetic company Bountiful Hair, women with natural hair have lower self-esteem than women with treated hair.

According to BlackHair.com, natural hair is “hair whose texture hasn’t been altered by chemical straighteners, including relaxers and texturizers.”

The most common natural hairstyle is an afro, which many black women consider an undesirable look. The hair is many times matted and coarse, and is not considered appropriate for a business environment. Many employers consider the look untidy, and ban individuals from wearing this style.

According to the study by Bountiful Hair, natural hair being viewed as a messy look is causing many women, who wear their hair in that manner, to feel inadequate and less desirable as their counterparts. Those feelings of inadequacy causes women with natural hair to lash out at women with treated or straightened hair, and in turn lowers their self-esteem.

Of the 3,000 women who participated in the study, 2,500 said they did not feel as pretty as women with straightened hair. Pilar Ciara Jones, who says she participated in the study, stated, “some days I just don’t know what to do with these naps — and on those days I just avoid the mirror altogether.”

“I try to tell myself that wearing my hair natural is all about empowerment and expressing natural beauty, but there were times when I just did not feel pretty,” Jones continued. “When you continuously break combs because your hair is so nappy, and you use everything  in your refrigerator to try to tame that mane, and you still have hair so rough you could polish rocks, you begin to reevaluate your choices.”

“At one point I was using a gallon of milk and a dozen eggs on my hair every day to try to soften it. That’s when I knew it was time to make a change. I got a relaxer and a Brazilian weave down to my butt, and I have never felt prettier,” Jones stated.

Bountiful Hair says the feelings by Jones are common among women with natural hair.


Winter Protective Hairstyle

Hello all and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

First blog of 2015, whoop whoop!! I hope this new year will be nothing but joy and happiness to you and your household.

Jumping right into this topic, it is evident that winter is here in the Midwest and Lord knows natural hair needs to stay out of the very harsh weather.

Brushing, curling, flat ironing, blow drying, gelling and itchy scalps are just some of my least fun things to deal with! This is where the term “Protective Hairstyle” comes into play.

Protective Hairstyles are where your hair is fixed in a way that daily styling of the hair is very low. It also ensures tucking away your hair, especially protecting the ends.

Lots of people have their favorite protective styles that they do to protect their ends such as: wigs, crochets, locks, twisted up-dos, Havana, Senegalese or Marley braids etc., because there are numerous benefits for protective hairstyles and some of those reasons are;
1. Protects from harsh weathers that can cause damage to your hair
2. Low maintenance and,
3. Retains growth

I’ve aways had the Senegalese twists done during the month of January through early March and it has been a very nice hairstyle to maintain. I love that I can just get up and go, knowing that my natural hair underneath is safe.


The above Senegalese twists were done last year, and it costed me $120 to get done, which I think is a great investment. I used the X-Pression braiding hair, which can be found in your local Beauty Supply stores.

An important routine that some seem to neglect is to always wash, condition and oil your scalp, (I used castor oil, or argan oil) to keep the pores moist.

This month, I’m looking to do box braids, because I haven’t done that since high school. I want to try something new, so I hope my Solange inspired box braids will look amazing on me.


I’m excited, so stay tuned.


My “Nap-tural” Journey . . .


As a Nigerian, it is perfectly clear that I was born with natural soft brown hair that the Lord blessed me with. As a little girl, my aunt whom I lived with during my younger years, always paid to have my hair braided weekly. It was hard to maintain because most styles I did, my hair would always frizz up. The braids/corn rows did make my hair strong and healthy.

Moreover, I didn’t get my first perm (creamy crack) until I was 13 years old. I used the Beautiful Beginnings Kids Perms, because my hair was as soft as feather. The other perms such as Dr. Miracle or Olive Oil could eventually damage my hair, so I stayed away from those. After my first few perms, I thought I could finally do anything and everything to my hair. I was like, “Yes finally the other girls would respect my nice long straight slick hair, without the frizz.” ( very stupid now that I think about it)

Furthermore, during my middle school and high school days, I wore my long hair proudly, styling it however I felt. Occasionally, I would do some box braids to manage my hair and plus it helped my hair grow. When I took out the braids, my friends would ask, “how did your hair get longer? it must be that African crack.” I would just laugh it off and reply, “you guys are all silly.” I didn’t get my first sew-in until my senior year of high school Prom. I gladly embraced my 18 inch weave flowing down my back- that was the start of my addiction to weaves!

I started getting into sew-ins because they made me look more mature. I evolved from the Beauty Supply weaves to the Indian Remy and now the Brazilian weaves from trusting vendors. However, my hair started to thin out as time went on. I hated the way my hair was looking so I began to constantly trim the ends. As time proceeded, I chose to go natural. Everyone tried to discourage me, but I realized that was the only way to get my hair healthy again. 

I haven’t permed my hair for 1 year and 4 months. Of course I began to have two different textures and I was very confused and frustrated. I’m too much of a chicken to do the “big chop” which is cutting off all my hair and literally starting from the beginning. I transitioned out, and I finally cut my permed ends after 7 months. At first, I freaked out! Looked in the waste bin and saw all my hair in it and shed some tears. But thank goodness for YouTube videos, following other naturals on Instagram and having natural headed friends who advised me along the day. 

I still continue to have sew-ins because I don’t like having my hair out during the school semester in college. Being in college allows no time to actually take care of your hair. You just want to be able to get out of bed, shower and leave out.

Eventually, I found the time to take care of my new natural growth during this winter break. The products I use are: Eco Styler Olive Oil Gel, Creme of Nature Argan Morrocan Leave-in Conditioner, the Moisturizer, Garnier Fructis Anti-Humidity, Pantene Co-wash, Pantene Shea butter Deep Conditoner, Shea Moisture Enhancing Smoothie, Cantu Shea Butter Strengthing treatment Argan Morrocan Oil and lots of water in a spray bottle. These products can be found at your local Wal-Mart and/or Beauty Supply. 

I began to embrace my natural hair more and more. I do protective hair styles like wash and go’s to work, a twist out and even rocked an afro proudly. I have no shame when people ask to touch it and sometimes, I advice other natural headed fellow when they need help. Truthfully, I find joy in cutting my hair, it’s been liberating.

Some of my friends hate it and some love it. You just have to be confident in yourself and choose what fits you best.